I don’t really understand why I can be assertive in business, but when it comes to my personal life I put everyone else’s needs in front of my own. I’ve been in Alanon, did all my homework, and intellectually understand appropriate boundaries and taking care of myself. When it comes down to practice, I do fine with employees, subcontractors, and clients. With my adult children, I do fine. But when it comes to friends, I am horrible. I let them use me all the time. By doing this, I know I attract the wrong kind of friends too. I do have some great friends in my life – especially my boyfriend. But the ones that are not tend to take up so much of my time and energy, that I have trouble finding the time for the good friends. I know what to do, but can’t seem to actually do it. I’d love to hear from you if you are also struggling with this.